Around 3000 years ago, an incident happened with the King of Israel, King Solomon. Solomon was famous for his wise and patient decisions.
One day, two women came to his court, each claiming, “The child is mine.” Everyone fell into deep thought.
Then Solomon stood up, took the child in his arms, drew his sword, and loudly said,
“I will cut this child in two and give half to each of you.”
When he raised the sword, one of the women immediately cried out,
“Stop! I was lying, give the child to her.”
At that moment, everyone understood who the real mother was — the one willing to save the child’s life, even if it meant giving the child away.
But here’s the twist: the king who could make such wise decisions for others could not make the right decisions for himself in his own life.This phenomenon is known in psychology asSolomon’s Paradox
It means:
We can give thousands of pieces of advice to others, but when it comes to ourselves, we often fail to find the right solution.
The reason for this is fear, ego, doubt, attachment, comfort habits, and other emotions, which prevent us from thinking logically for ourselves.
A simple way to overcome this:
1. Write your problem on paper.
2. Then imagine it is someone else’s problem and read it again.
This allows you to think with both emotion and reason.
Because the best decisions are the ones where the heart’s voice and the mind’s guidance work together.
